According to research, more young people are becoming sexually active today without knowing or understanding about safe sex, protection, STDs, or even birth control.

The most important thing is that we talk openly with them, understand them, and give them knowledge about sexual intercourse before they have sex for the first time.

Talking with our kids or with children in our care about sex, may feel awkward, but they need the right information from a young age. We need to start teaching them the differences between females and males; this is what female genitalia looks like and this is what male genitalia looks like.

As the kids get a bit older, we may talk about love with them, because when we have sex, it's not just about sex, but a combination of love and sex. Tell them about your love stories and listen to their experiences so far. Doing this helps to open them up whilst making them feel safe to talk to you freely.

When they think it is the right time to have sex, we can then give them advice and encourage them to reflect on their personal values, before they make a final decision. But they should be left to make the final decision about who they choose and when they are ready.

Birth Control & STD Prevention

I'll divide this into “with” a method of birth control and “without”. Let's start with "without". If no contraception plan has been made, the first option is "withdrawal" (pull out method).

Withdrawal (Pull Out Method)

Some people think that sperm is only released at orgasm, but that's not true at all. Sperm is released before that in pre-ejaculate.

Withdrawal is less than 75% effective, so it's not recommended.

Fertility Awareness Method.

“Before 7, after 7”. This means 7 days before you menstruate, you can have safe sex. 7 days after menstruation you can also have sex.

This period is safe because ovulation hasn't started yet, it will start midway. No eggs, no sperm, no pregnancy.


Next, Contraception.

For men, the only option is condoms. Condoms are 99% effective in preventing pregnancy, when used correctly. Condoms are available in highstreet stores and I suggest you carry condoms with you at all times.

There are condoms for women too, and not so many people know that. You can carry condoms, but when having sex, it's huge, like a basket in basketball, it's a long pouch and when having sex you may hear cracking sounds.

Emergency Pills.

You have 72 hours to take Emergency pills after you have sex, but the faster you take, the better.

Emergency pills contain strong hormones, which can cause hormonal swings. It's not recommended for those who have regular sex. You should use other methods.

Birth control pills.

The 28-day and the 21-day packet. These pills contain low hormonal doses and can be taken daily. One disadvantage though, is that you may forget to take it. If this happens, you have to start counting again.

The trick is that if you forget, Take it again as soon as you remember that day. But if a day has passed, take 2 pills the next day. If you miss 2 days, then take 2 pills a day for the next 2 days. If you miss 3 days, you must start again.

I suggest you also use other protection, like wearing a condom.

Contraceptive injection.

This lasts around 1 or 3 months. You inject this once a month. I think this method is fairly easy.

Contraceptive implant.

Consider this if you don't want to become pregnant for 3 to 5 years. This is a long time and that's the advantage of it. It's a tube, like a cotton bud, that is inserted under the skin of the upper arm and that's it. It lasts for 3-5 years.

An intrauterine device inside the vagina, or inserting a straw, can also prevent pregnancy. It also uses hormones. But it's not recommended for those diagnosed with STDs, or if you have had vaginal infections because it won't work well.

Sexually Transmitted Diseases

Sexually transmitted diseases are numerous and common. HIV may be the most renowned but there are many more such as syphilis, gonorrhoea, chlamydia, herpes, or warts.

Many of these can be prevented before sex, such as warts. We can get HPV. For Hepatitis B virus, we can get a vaccination as well. For other diseases, you must use a condom to protect yourself.

Many people think that STDs are transmitted via genitals only. That's not true. For example, Gonorrhoea can occur in the neck, mouth, or anus. Warts can occur in your mouth. Consider prevention carefully.

Let's Talk About Sex Ed

To sum everything up, having sex is natural, anyone can do it, we cannot forbid anyone from doing it and no one cannot forbid us from it too.

What we can do is communicate wisely and correctly when our kids are still young. Build their trust and let them talk to us. We can support birth control, to prevent teen pregnancy, and STDs.

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